Cinderfeminism

Blah blah blah fairy tales and feminism.


The typical fairy tale uses limiting and oppressive sex-role stereotyping.

Fairy tales are often restricted to fulfilling the role of
“fictive conduct manuals for girls, teaching normative values. ”
– Jacqueline Reid-Walsh

When fairy tales portray females in ways that are reflective of the cultural-societal interpretations of women as weak, inferior, or lacking agency, they perpetrate that flawed and damaging perspective.

Females should be portrayed as they are: diverse individuals whose worthiness and value is not defined by masculinity or the lack thereof.  Because traditional fairy tales often reflect the values and perspectives of the patriarchy, they are a frequent target of critique and reinterpretation.

Fortunately, literature has the ability to reclaim these fairy tales by developing female characters into unique figures with their own agency and worth, while promoting feminist perspectives and values.  Through acts of rereading, reclaiming, and redirection, a retold fairy tale can have a substantially positive influence on a reader’s experiences and perspectives regarding feminism.

Gail Carson Levine’s retelling of the Cinderella story, Ella Enchanted is an excellent example of this

In this re-imagining, Ella struggles with the fact that she was forced into obedience by a fairy’s curse at birth. Literary portrayals of girls, girlhood, and femininity are frequently consistent with promoting patriarchal and traditional gender roles, and obedience is a large part of that. Historically, viewpoints on obedience and adherence to tradition encourage these values, but in this retelling, strict obedience is depicted as an undesirable and horrifically restrictive trap.

Through Ella’s consistent questioning and creative rebellions, she dispels the assumption that women should be always obedient. She develops her own unique identity, one that asserts her right to be included, and through which she is able to supply valuable contributions to develop and enrich her world. The tale of Cinderella is a common and familiar one,  but this retelling provides more depth and detail about the protagonist as she forges her own path to discover herself and break free of her curse through the use of her own intelligence, power, and creativity.

Oppression is not always familiar, recognizable, or visible, but we can give ourselves the power of the freedom to make our own choices. Like Ella.

Ella Enchanted is easy to relate to because it provides a universe that is similar to one we have already experienced, and shares many patterns and connections to the traditional Cinderella story.

However, it refreshingly includes a great deal more in the way of explanations, possibilities and self-driven opportunity.  It is a great example of a way to challenge a reader to see beyond more simplistic explanations and search for new perspectives and explanations.

Because the concrete universe has already been established, by telling the same tale from a new perspective, new questions can be unearthed, alternate mindsets discovered, and previously unconsidered horizons can be expanded.  The author and the reader can construct the structure and meaning together, and Levine seamlessly incorporates her structural detail into each aspect of the story:

“We don’t dig the foundation after the house is built.”
-Lloyd Alexander

This structure and interconnectivity encourages imaginative exploration as well as addresses very real concepts, dilemmas, and threats.

Levine’s reassuring attention to detail grounds the story and characters in reality.  I mean, was there really only one girl in the entire kingdom whose feet could fit the glass slippers?! Seems unlikely!  Thankfully, n Ella Enchanted, Ella’s rare fairy ancestry (in Levine’s mythology, fairies have significantly smaller-than-average sized feet) is responsible for the fact that the slippers fit only her.  Thank goodness for this solid structural attention to detail that made the story infinitely more believable! Each explanation was logical within the framework Levine created and expanded upon.  And each supportive and believable detail just drives home the believability and truth of the positive feminist ideas and messages.

This conceptual transference into the real world is inspiring and congruent with the idea that

“children’s literature can provide sources of comfort and pleasure, models for behavior, and identity, reflections of self and reality, and visions of better or less painful possibilities.”
– Eric Tribunella

If someone as seemingly average and insignificant as Ella can create such a vast and positive impact, surely this will inspire those who read about her to feel hope and optimism that they, too, can overcome significant challenges and obstacles to create a positive impact on themselves and the world around them.

This structural integrity is also applied to the characters within Levine’s constructed world.  While female characters may often seem to be portrayed as developed individuals in many books, they still often accept (succumb to) traditional gender roles.  Ella’s character is so refined and developed that this is specifically addressed in the final chapter.  While she does marry the prince, becoming a wife and a mother, she refuses to let those terms alone define or restrict her:

“I refused to become a princess, but adopted the titles of Court Linguist and Cook’s Helper. I also refused to stay at home while Char traveled, and learned every language and dialect that came our way.”
-Ella (Gail Carson Levine)

Ella retains her unique identity and refuses to be bound by limiting conventionalities while ALSO acknowledging that this does not necessarily require the rejection of her own values and desires that happen to be consistent with traditional female roles.  She has the power to choose. She doesn’t reject traditional female roles just out of spite, she keeps the aspects, ideas, and roles that she values.

Ella is an ordinary hero and her defining battle, like many of ours, is fought internally.  Conflict and change are dynamic elements of any story, and the primary conflict in a fantasy or fairy tale is often a large-scale, complicated, cosmic quest or physical battle

But, as in this case, the conflict-response behavior of a single person is just as meaningful and has just as much of an impact. 

While internal conflicts such as the one found in Ella Enchanted may seem to lack cosmic significance, the mental and emotional adventures and battles still have consequences that are cosmically momentous to the characters experiencing them.  And this consequential impact, while it may seem small-scale, has the potential to have a much larger-reaching affect on the world in many ways.

Ella is a self-rescuing hero whose outwardly small triumph affects the entire kingdom, ultimately saving many more – monumental results stemming from seemingly insignificant beginnings. You don’t need a confrontational ninja battle or an evil uncle with a talking snake and a devious plan to depose the prince, (***LOOKING AT YOU ELLA ENCHANTED MOVIE***) for the story to be meaningful, relatable, or enjoyable.

⇒ For more about Ella Enchanted:

Ella Enchanted and Being an Ordinary Hero

Literature and all forms of storytelling have an immense impact on society and the assumptions about a woman’s characteristics, roles, and overall place in the world.  Literature seems to frequently struggle with how to portray feminism and equality. Even when a protagonist is female, the story itself may not be in line with feminist ideas.

To determine whether or not a work of children’s literature can be deemed feminist in nature, there are a variety of aspects to observe and analyze.  A close reading of the text and illustrations is necessary.  Does the way the character is depicted take advantage of or conform to unhealthy gender stereotypes?  Do the things the character says reaffirm typical gender roles and inequalities or do they support female worthiness, value, and empowerment?

Movies have a way to evaluate gender bias and positive female representation – it’s called the Bechdel test.  To pass this test, a movie has to meet these three requirements:

  1. Two female characters (preferably named),
  2. Who talk to each other,
  3. About something other than a man.

It’s not perfect, but it IS eye-opening!

“Why the Bechdel Test Fails Feminism”:
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/anna-waletzko/why-the-bechdel-test-fails-feminism_b_7139510.html

Why is the original Cinderella story acceptable, but if genders were switched, it would be deemed unacceptable, as in the below version of Cinderella, CinderFELLA?

Even though Ella is the main character in her own Cinderella story, she is limited severely by a number of barriers and restrictions. She fulfills both powerful and powerless roles, sometimes simultaneously.  She both speaks, and is silenced, she acts, and is acted upon, she fights for honor, but also suffers.

In the end, through her journey, she becomes someone who does indeed have the freedom to act as she chooses and make her own decisions.  However, this culmination is a difficult one full of strife and struggle in many forms.  Through her struggle towards understanding of her own role as a female, a reader can gain insight into reciprocal and familiar struggles in their own life, especially those regarding gender and gender roles.

“gender has historically (whether overtly or covertly) been a tool of negotiation between our understandings of bodies, and meanings derived from and attributed to them.”
– Erica Hately

We have access to the the power to use this tool to shape and promote certain viewpoints and perspectives. Literature often reflects and shapes peoples’ understandings of themselves and others and the associated gendered identities, usually in adherence with the

“specific binary logic of gender relations, which historically subordinated the feminine to the masculine.”
-Erica Hately

Like traditional binary gender roles, fairy tales have been around for a long time.  And like interpretations of acceptable gender roles, fairy tales continue to change and grow over time.  Ella Enchanted is a distinctive example of a retold fairy tale, still attached to a familiar and long-standing framework, that promotes changing perspectives on both of these ideas.

This story is valuable in so many ways, especially because it addresses the real-life issues of the importance of being strong by making your own decisions, standing up for what you believe in, and the worth of sacrifice in relation to love and the protection of those you love.

I’ve said it before, but I would tell everyone I know to read this book, and if they were Ella at the beginning of her story, they would be forced to obey.

As it is, both she and everyone else, has the freedom to choose:

“Decisions were a delight after the curse. I loved having the power to say yes or no, and refusing anything was a special pleasure.”
-Ella (Gail Carson Levine)


References/For further reading!

Alexander, Lloyd. (1981). The grammar of story. In Betsy Hearne and Marilyn Kaye (Eds), Celebrating children’s books: Essays on children’s literature in honor of Zena Sutherland. (pp. 3-13). New York: Lothrop, Lee, and Shepard Books.

Hately, Erica. (2011). Gender. In P. Nel & L. Paul (Authors), Keywords for children’s literature (pp. 86-92). New York: New York University Press.

Meek Spencer, Margaret. (2003). What more needs saying about imagination? In Reading research quarterly (Vol. 38, pp. 546-551).

Reid-Walsh, Jacqueline. (2011). Girlhood. In P. Nel & L. Paul (Authors), Keywords for children’s literature (pp. 92-95). New York: New York University Press.

Tribunella, Eric L. (2011). Boyhood. In P. Nel & L. Paul (Authors), Keywords for children’s literature (pp. 21-25). New York: New York University Press.

Whitley, D. (2000). Fantasy narratives and growing up. In Eve Bearne and Victor Watson (Eds), Where texts and children meet. (pp. 172-182.) New York: Routledge Press.

Zipes, Jack. (1999). Hans Christian Andersen and the discourse of the dominated. In When dreams came true: Classical fairy tales and their tradition (pp. 80-110). New York: Routledge.


Also… this picture, created by ImEevee in Spain, is amazing.

https://www.redbubble.com/people/imeevee/works/25119610-space-book?grid_pos=1&p=poster&rbs=05a22953-5ea0-49f3-b4a5-c54b5b63d990&ref=shop_grid

Music Monday: Going Through the Motions

Music Monday!

Music can be a great source of comfort and inspiration when you’re feeling down.

Today’s song is: “Going Through the Motions” from Once More With Feeling, the Buffy the Vampire Slayer musical episode.

Listen to the song here:

Lyrics:

“Every single night, the same arrangement,
I go out and fight the fight.
Still I always feel this strange estrangement,
Nothing here is real, nothing here is right.

I’ve been making shows of trading blows,
Just hoping no one knows,
That I’ve been going through the motions,
Walking though the part,
Nothing seems to penetrate my heart.

I was always brave and kind of righteous,
Now I find I’m wavering.
Crawl out of your grave, you find this fight
Just doesn’t mean a thing

(Henchman) She ain’t got that swing.

(Buffy) -pause- Thanks for noticing.

(Demon & Henchmen) She is pretty well with fiends from Hell
But lately we can tell
That she’s just going through the motions
Faking it somehow.

(Demon) She’s not even half the girl she…owww!

(Buffy) Will I stay this way forever?
Sleepwalk through my life’s endeavor?

(Handsome Young Man) How can I repay…?

(Buffy) Whatever!
I don’t want to be
Going through the motions,
Losing all my drive.
I can’t even see,
If this is really me,
And I just wanna be alive.”

Why this song’s so cool:  At this point in Buffy’s story line, Buffy is really struggling to readjust to ‘normalcy,’ cause… you know… she DIED.  Also, when she was dead, she was in some version of heaven.  Her friends brought her back to life because they thought she was trapped in a horrible hell dimension, but in all actuality, she was safe and at peace. It’s just a very fun song that packs an emotional punch.  It’s a great way to visualize the feelings of depression as something more tangible, even if it is fantasy-based.

Why this song’s helpful: Buffy’s feelings are so applicable to someone struggling with depression.
Season six is probably Buffy’s darkest season.  And this makes her especially relevant for those struggling with depression.  Buffy doesn’t enjoy the things she used to, she struggles accomplishing basic, everyday tasks, no one understands why she is so sad and changed and her friends want her to just get over it already.  She feels lost, alone, guilty, worthless, helpless, empty, directionless: THESE ARE LITERALLY SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION.  She doesn’t know who she is anymore, and that is what depression feels like.

About the musical episode:

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0533466/

The Buffy wiki page:

http://buffy.wikia.com/wiki/Once_More,_with_Feeling

It’s Simpler To Be a Sim

Pretending to be a sim is a great way to assess your mood when you feel like crap, but are having a hard time figuring out why. You know those needs bars in the game the Sims?  When you get really overwhelmed, think of those and how you would deal with them in the Sims.  You evaluate where you are in each category – are you in the green?  Or is the bar red with that arrow to the left?  Identify the problem areas and fix them in order of easiest-hardest.

S – Self-scan :

Think of each need category and assess your level.  It helps to ask yourself questions more like; “When did I last eat” rather than, “Am I hungry.”  Sometimes you don’t know why you feel the way you feel, or what needs the most attention.

I – Itemize improvements:

Think of how you can fix each problem area and then organize your plans to get back in the green in a way that makes sense to you.  Usually that’s easiest to hardest, but sometimes you start with the category that is the MOST RED.  Sure, you might be in the kitchen with a snack on your way to your mouth, but if you’re about to pee your pants, do that first. (please).

M – Manage momentum:

I guess that’s a fancy way of saying just do it.

  • Bladder
    • Easiest fix. GO POTTY!
  • Hunger
    • Eat something. Too hard to decide or to make something? Fruit and string cheese are my go-tos.  Just stick it in your mouth.  It’s also handy to prepare by stocking up on super easy meals for hunger emergencies.  My emergency meal is Yakitori chicken and fried rice from Costco.  It’s yummy, hot, and takes three minutes in the microwave.
yummmmmmmm
  • Hygiene
    • Take a shower – you stink! Too hard to stand up? Sit down in the shower.  No rule says you can’t.  (I call it a shather). Or take a bath.  Still too much work?  Wash your face.  Brush your teeth or hair.  Invest in those make-up removal wipes for when even that is too hard. Been wearing the same clothes for three days? Change ’em!
  •  Energy
  • Fun
    • Do something you have fun (or used to have fun doing).  See a movie, hang out with friends, play laser tag. If you’re thinking, “Ugh… FUN. What even is that?”  Just take baby steps. Youtube ‘unlikely animal friendships,’ or ‘kitten derp.’ Play your favorite cheerful song.  Just take three minutes and listen to it. Or if you feel able and spritely, move your body WHILE you listen to it! Dance parties are high energy, but you can handle it for ONE song maybe, right?  It might be helpful to make a note whenever something you do makes you even a little happy.  Then you can refer to it when your fun meter is especially low.
      • This is one that helps me:
  • Social
    • Yeah, yeah interact with someone.  (This is especially tough if you are an introvert, like I am.) You may hate the idea of it, but your hate will probably lessen if you are actually doing something with someone else.  Hang out with friends, go to an event, talk to someone for just 5 minutes.  You don’t really want to see any of your friends?  Okay, just leave the house and have a random positive interaction with someone – anyone.   The best way to do this is with someone in customer service – it is LITERALLY part of their job to try to connect and be nice to you.  Go grab a coffee and remember to smile at your barista and say hello, please, and thank you.  If that’s too long of an interaction, then try complimenting someone on something.  It doesn’t really matter what (well, don’t be offensive).  You don’t even have to particularly believe it.  As you’re passing a stranger, just pick something about them, and then say you like it.  Like, “Hey – cute shoes!” It takes three words.  Two if you leave out, “hey.” Minimal effort, you make someone else feel good, which will in turn make you feel good, and LOOK you had a social interaction! Congratulations!  Your bar is moving towards the green! If even leaving the house is unthinkable, invite someone over.  Specify that you might be in your pajamas. Can’t even bear the thought of being in the company of another human? Cuddle up to your pet or hug a stuffed animal.  Reach out to people you care about via facebook, email, chat, whatever.  Send someone a text letting them know you’re thinking about them.  Even something that small can cheer you up. Try not to neglect your important relationships.
  • Comfort
    • Here’s where naps can come in handy yet again. Find your softest blanket and warmest slippers and snuggle on the couch with some mac & cheese and your favorite book.  Pretend you’re a human burrito.  Take a hot bubble bath and use that special body wash.   Treat yo’ self to a mini-spa experience!  If you’re like me (and many other ladies), you have mysteriously accumulated a ton of miscellaneous body lotion.  Get rid of it – slather it on your body.  Paint your nails while watching a silly rom-com.  IDK… what comforts YOU? Do THAT.
      • *but be careful with eating TOO much food, or relying as food as your primary comfort tool.  This can often backfire and make you feel worse, guilty, and bloated.  After you eat some comfort food, and you find yourself wanting more, try to ask yourself, “Am I hungry?” Then wait 20 minutes before getting more.
  • Environment
    • Where are you?  Or where do you go often?  Is it pretty? Calming? Comforting? Or…is it a source of anxiety, annoyance, and distress?  Make some changes. Ok, so you can’t afford to move to a better apartment or quit your job.  But you can move furniture, clean, paint walls, and declutter! Can you spruce up your office space in any way?  Add a cheerful plant or cozy seat cushion? What can you do?  LOTS! But… Baby steps again. Think about what specifically you don’t like about your environment and start there.  Start small.  For example, my bathroom had looked the same since we moved here, and I was tired of it.  I didn’t want to go in there.  To me, it was just a boring reminder of how stupid the past was. It was uncomfortable, crowded, and boring.  I thought the shower curtain was ugly.  So I bought a new shower curtain.  I changed those cabinet knobs that I hated – from functional and boring to FUNctional and pretty! I even bought a special, very soft bath mat because I hated stepping on the cold tiles!   (It was THIS and I LOVE IT! SO SQUISHY AND BEAUTIFUL!) But you don’t have to spend money to change your environment – use what you have! I hung up art that was cheerful and fun.  I got rid of clutter and moved things I didn’t use everyday to some decorative storage bins.  I fixed the broken shelf and folded the towels.  Each small thing you do to improve an environment you’re not happy with is a step in the right direction.  Even if your environment problem seems too big to solve, try doing just one small thing that makes it a little bit better.  You wish it were sunnier in Washington?  TOO BAD – haha! But you can get a light therapy lamp, take vitamin D, plan vacations to sunnier climes, make sure you get outside every day, move heavy furniture away from your windows, get stronger lightbulbs, find things you love about the rain.  Appreciate and make the most of each blue sky!

Just beware of swimming in pools with no ladders!

What to Watch When You’re Depressed. (Or Just Sad):

Sometimes when you’re depressed, all you can do is sit there.  Moving is just. too. hard.  Well, while you’re sitting there, maybe watching something on the telly will distract you somewhat from your misery.  It’s worth a try, right?

Here are my recommendations:

Most importantly: Watch movies that you love or used to love.  Bring back that lovin’ feeling.

My personal happy/helpful movies:

  • Lord of the Rings “All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”

    • I really, strongly identify with these movies (and books). Ordinary, non-conventional heroes (THAT’S ME!) have to do all this impossible-seeming stuff, go on a long, difficult, draining, physically and psychologically exhausting journey to a dark and horrible place. But there is a support network. And all they come back in some way or another. It is possible!  If they can do it, maybe so can I? Maybe?
    • “There and back again” – I have a framed print that says this that hangs in my room reminding me that, like Frodo and Sam, I CAN make it to Mt. Doom. And then I can even make it back home. Things will be different, but the quest to vanquish the evil thing that has taken me over does have an end.  This is where I got the name for this blog.
    • “There is some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for.” ‘Nuff said.
    • BONUS: It’s really long, so if you feel like you can’t get up off the couch for a long period of time, that’s fine . . . you’re just having a movie marathon experience. Not moving turns into something you are doing on purpose to immerse yourself in the story, yeah, that’s it!
  • Into the Woods – “The prettier the flower, the farther from the path.”

    • Basically a giant metaphor for going through dark, scary, uncertain times and getting through it. “Everything you learn there will help when you return there.”
    • Also, freaking hilarious. How did Stephen Sondheim create such a roller coaster of emotions!?  I’m laughing out loud, then sobbing hysterically.  And it’s all relevant on so many different levels.
    • “Into the woods,
      It’s time to go,
      It may be all
      In vain, you/I know.
      Into the woods-
      But even so,
      I have to take the journey.
      Into the woods,
      Without delay,
      But careful not
      To lose the way.
      Into the woods,
      Who knows what may
      Be lurking on the journey?
      Into the woods
      To get the thing
      That makes it worth
      The journeying.”
    • Remember, NO ONE IS ALONE:
  • Howl’s Moving Castle – “They say that the best blaze burns brightest when circumstances are at their worst.”

    • What do you do when you’re suddenly different than you used to be? Are you trapped in a seemingly unsolvable or frustrating situation?  Do you feel like you’re weird and different and don’t fit in?  Need a change in environment and/or scenery? Do you feel out of sync with your identity and/or appearance?  Does your outside not match your inside?
    • IT’S JUST BEAUTIFUL AND AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL.
  • Pride and Prejudice/Sense and Sensibility – any version – “Completely and perfectly and incandescently happy.”

    • Just take me away from this time and place where everything is horrible and bring me to the land of gentle pastels, sweeping gowns, long walks in the rain, and refined, yet sassy characters. Give me some sweet distance with a side of silliness, where the problems of the heroines are poignantly real and relatable even though they’re totally not relatable.
  • Silver Linings Playbook – “I like that. Just like all the other parts of myself.”

    • Hey, look – a movie about mental illness that isn’t dumb/condescending/a caricature. It’s real and many people struggle with it. It’s accurate, normalizing and relatable.

Whatever you watched as a child/young adult is often a good choice, because it can transport you back to a time when you were happier and not as worried.

  • Harry Potter – “Don’t let the muggles get you down.”

  • Mulan, Tangled, Anastasia, (and other Disney/animated features) – “A single grain of rice can tip the scale. One man may be the difference between victory and defeat.”

    • Again, brings you back to a simpler, happier place. Let’s get down to business… (you can finish the rest).
    • Be careful with your selections though. Maybe fast forward through that Lion King stampede scene?  And any time any characters parents die, really, which, let’s face it, is ALL THE FREAKING TIME (if they’re not dead already).

My happy/helpful T.V. shows:

  • BUFFY THE VAMPIRE SLAYER – “The hardest thing in this world is to live in it.”

    • GUYS! EVERYTHING IS JUST ONE GIANT METAPHOR FOR EVERYTHING!!!
    • Only have time for one episode? WATCH THE MUSICAL!  Season 6, episode 7: “Once More, With Feeling.”  “I touch the fire and it freezes me.  I look into it and it’s black. Why can’t I feel? My skin should crack and peel.  I want the fire back!”  Tell me that’s not about depression.
    • Only have time for one scene? THIS ONE:
      • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmLSjwam26E
      • “Every single night, the same arrangement,
        I go out and fight the fight. 
        Still I always feel this strange estrangement, 
        Nothing here is real, nothing here is right.
        …Will I stay this way forever?
        Sleepwalk through my life’s endeavor?
        …I don’t want to be
        Going through the motions,
        Losing all my drive.
        I can’t even see,
        If this is really me,
        And I just wanna be alive.”
  • Better Off Ted – “I wish I had the power to make everyone go away.”

    • So delightfully and ridiculously funny – Thank you, Netflix!
  • Parks and Recreation – “Everything hurts and I’m dying.” “I’m fine. It’ just that life is pointless and nothing matters and I’m always tired.” “I don’t want to do things.  I want to NOT do things.” “Sometimes you gotta work a little, so you can ball a lot.” “Treat yo’ self.” “Never half-ass two things.  Whole-ass one thing.”  “My whole life is a giant mess and I love it.”

    • Every single episode is funny. It’s optimistic but realistic.  I feel like I relate to almost EVERY character. Perfect for extracting a laugh when you didn’t know you even had one left in there.  Short and sweet and easy to fit into your schedule.

*A note about sad movie-watching – I recommend mostly happy movies, but an occasional sad movie can be cleansing and helpful in its own way.  For example – if you feel guilt or shame about crying about your own problems, it can be a way to channel those tears so they can be expressed and not built up.  Try more gentle tear-jerkers like “Titanic” rather than THERE IS NO BRIGHT SPOT ANYWHERE movies like “Schindler’s List.”